The New Book and a Sense of Freedom
The interview begins with the author discussing the release of her new book, which she describes as “gut-wrenching” to write but ultimately liberating. She explains that after moving on from her past, she was ready to look at her life from a different perspective and share her innermost thoughts. She feels a sense of freedom, noting that she didn’t realize the extent of her own people-pleasing until she saw her habit of saying “it’s fine” in print.
A New Perspective on the Past
The author reflects on her marriage to Cody, admitting she was naive. Despite being raised in a polygamous environment, she believed her own marriage would be a “fairy tale” and was surprised by how difficult it was. She states there was a 10-year period that was genuinely good, but she always knew he wasn’t her soulmate.
She reveals that she didn’t fully realize she was being manipulated until she watched episodes of the show, which gave her a new perspective on her own behavior and Cody’s actions. She decided to use her new understanding to tell her story from her own point of view, challenging Cody to write his own book if he disagrees.
Financial and Intimate Dynamics
The interview also touches on the practical aspects of their plural marriage. The author clarifies that each wife had their own finances, though they would come together to pay for large, shared expenses. She felt that she often didn’t have an equal voice in financial decisions.
Regarding the intimate side of the marriage, she says it was “weird” and “awkward.” She discusses the ideal that a polygamous marriage should have healthy, full, and equal relationships for everyone in order to work properly. She 100% believed this was how it should be. The book addresses this directly, so she hopes she won’t have to talk about it again.
